I used to think emotional intelligence is the ability to control myself regardless of how I felt. Turns out, that’s why I drank.

Don’t surrender your autonomy to group-think sobriety. Exchanging one set of limiting beliefs for another won’t set you free.

Is your inside voice a bully? Internalized oppression from patriarchal, elitist and racially-biased “standards” causes fear and shame.

Stress drinking is like buying cheap crap with a high interest credit card. The BELIEF that alcohol reduces stress accelerates addiction.

Take the self-sabotage quiz: 11 signs that you’re the problem. How to get out of your own way.

There’s a difference between managing your behavior and managing your emotions. Emotional sobriety heals subconscious urges.

Drinking alcohol and seasonal affective disorder are directly related. The more you drink the worse you feel. Learn how sobriety affects depression.

Three basic assumptions have given me the dog I’ve always wanted and accelerated my recovery from alcohol use disorder. They are to respect your bandwidth; maintain connection; and think small.

Loneliness isn’t the absence of other people but a lack of connection to yourself. What’s the difference between solitude and isolation?

Self-care is not making yourself pretty and presentable whilst balancing bad habits with health hacks. Stop gaslighting yourself.

Ex-drinkers have worked very hard to get their shit together. Alcohol keeps the masses numb and dumb. Recovery is the next revolution.

Getting help to stop drinking may seem like a luxury you can’t afford. You can quit on your own, right? The trick is to avoid trading one addiction for another.

You’re not bad if you drink too much. You’re not good if you quit. Sobriety is not a good goal. It’s a vehicle, not the destination.

Antidepressants improve mental health. Drinking alcohol (a depressant) does the opposite. Does alcohol cause mental illness? Yes. But like all chronic illness, alcohol use disorder is reversible.

Alcohol is addictive because it triggers the release of dopamine. How addictive is alcohol for you? The more you drink, the harder it becomes to control.

The idea of getting sober feels like the hiker who had to cut off his arm to save himself. Except it’s not. Just put down the drink. You can keep your arm.

Loneliness is not the absence of people. It’s the lack of connection with yourself. Focus your attention inward to heal loneliness.

Recovery from alcohol use disorder doesn’t happen overnight. We have to learn how to process emotions and manage stress, and allow time for brain chemistry to recalibrate. The symptoms of post-acute withdrawal syndrome are easier to manage with a timeline and strategies.